Transitions can be hard, especially when they’re foisted on you, against your choice. Job changes, injuries, and the ultimate, aging I’m reminded of this as I recently spent time with my aging mother in her home in Maine. In addition to the widowhood of the past 11 years, she grapples with the expected aging process that accompanies being 97 years old: arthritis, reduced eyesight and hearing, unsteady balance, and reduced energy. These, she manages with relative grace, but
What is your default setting: pleasing yourself or pleasing others? Being a people pleaser can put you on a path to frustration, fear of rejection, low self esteem and maladaptive coping habits. Take a moment to see if any of these statements ring true for you: I am motivated by external validation and approval I conform to others’ opinions to avoid conflict I take care of others’ emotions and not my own I offer unsolicited advice and problem solving Do these sound familiar?
When Halloween arrives, the realization that the end of the year is near hits me like a snap of a wet towel. As soon as the Walgreens candy aisle doubles in size, it signals that the end of the year holidays have begun and the relentless march towards the new year has accelerated. With each holiday milestone, the refrain of “I’ve got to get organized! There’s so much to do before the new year!” echoes through my head. Travel to book. Gifts to shop for. And the year-end-push